writes jennifer from greenville, s.c.: “each year the junior league of greenville hosts a great oscar party — normally a band, dancing, open bar and food. this year, they decided that a band is what caused people to make it a ‘drunkfest’ in the past. (southern belles do not like drunkfests unless they can wear their white gloves to them.) instead, they’ve decided to hire a pianist to play show tunes so no one will drink heavily or dance.” as a dues-paying junior leaguer herself, jennifer (bless her heart!) decided to e-mail the event chair to suggest an alternative. in response came this charming example of southern grace